Measuring Growth

When you grow through life, you grow through stages.  Now it’s easy to measure physical growth.  Who hasn’t had someone take out the yard stick, lay it on your head to create a mark on a door frame or wall to measure your growth.   At some point the height and weight growth stops…but for some of us (in fact for a lot of us) later in life the weight growth starts again, usually without your permission.  But how do you know if you’re really “growing” as a person?   Well, there’s are a number of ways.  

1.  Experiences that used to be difficult become easier.   

2.  You feel more comfortable in a leadership role.

3.  You see yourself as a “kinder, gentler” soul, who is capable of setting boundaries.

4.  You find yourself willing to take on new challenges.

5.  You see new challenges as an opportunity to learn and grow, rather than an experience that will expose your weaknesses. 

6.  The qualities or experiences you see in others that used to bother you, no longer impact you anymore.

The things (qualities etc) you see in people that bother you are a reflection of a part of yourself that you have yet to accept or understand.   Let that one sink in for a while.    The qualities and attributes you admire in another is evidence of talents and atributes that you have.   It’s probable you haven’t become aware of their unfoldment into your experiences.   Are you starting to see why learning from your experiences is so important.   That’s the essences of awareness…aware of what you are experiencing.

Now the good news is that someone who is always acts like a jerk is just reminding you of the few times you act like a jerk.   But it’s the jerk in you that sees the jerk in them.   The key is to find out why you think that person is a jerk…and start working to “heal” that area within yourself.  The more you see how much you have in common with someone, the easier it is to melt the mental barriers you think divide you.

There’s a technique from the Avatar program called “Just Like Me.”  You walk through a grocery store and everyone you see you mentally say, “Just like me, that person wants more _______ in his/her life.  Happiness, joy, money – whatever you want, just imagine that person is looking for something similar.   Notice what you experience.

Let’s say you see a child at the grocery store throwing a tantrum.  It bothers you!  You become critical of the child, the parent and the whole scene.  Your friend sees the same scene and is not even phased by the scene.  Why is that?  It could be that in your upbringing an outburst in a public place was greeted with looks that stimulated a fear for your well being!  In my day, we didn’t have public outbursts or tantrums in our family, not if sitting on a chair anytime soon was important to you!  That’s just the way it was.

So when I’d see a kid in the store erupt in one of those “I have to have that” moments, I’d kind of cringe and fear for the kid’s safety.  People who were actually allowed to have those tantrums, see another kid throw a tantrum and are not even phased by it.   I have a lot more room to grow when it comes to this area of life.

Now, when I could see those tantrums later and not be phased by them I knew I was growing.

I remember once there was another salesman in the company who was making cold calls on the phone.  And there was something about the way he called that really bothered me.  But I couldn’t put my finger on what it was.  He was definitely showing me something about myself that I didn’t enjoy.   But I kept working at it until one day I heard myself sounding just like the guy who was irritating me.  I was doing the same thing.  I figured it out, bingo, just like that.   A flash of awareness.

I got off the phone and celebrated – Once I had figured it out, boom it was gone and I felts about 50 lbs lighter.  Do you ever have a sudden realization about something and all of a sudden you feel lighter and brighter?  It’s like the fog lifting on the highway…you can relax and speed up a little, because your vision has become more clear. 

That’s what growing feels like.   You’ve moved through the fog of confusion to see things more clearly.   You laugh more easily, you smile more often and you day is filled with special moments.  That’s when you know you are growing – because you’re becoming more loving, more accepting and a kinder soul.   Actually you already are all those qualities – you’re just experiencing them more consistently.   Hang with me – you’re on the way to meeting an incredible person – YOU!

Hello world!

Just after the earth cooled an incredible young lady canceled a three year relationship and a prime rib dinner in one phone call. 

“So…you don’t want to go out tonight….OK, wanna come over and watch TV?”

“Excuse me, I misunderstood – never again?”

“You’re jokin!  You’re NOT jokin! – Oh (expletive deleted)”

I don’t want you to think that I’ve dwelled too much on that turning point in my life…but it was in August of 1972 - August 5th, to be honest.  Around 10:30 in the morning.  That started ”the search.”  

 If you haven’t started “the search” yet you’re in for a treat.   ”The Search” begins with one of those “how in the world did that happen” moments.   Ever wake up next to someone and wonder, “how in the world did I get here?”  She was probably faking sleep wondering the same thing…thinking “if I lay here quietly, maybe he’ll get up and get out of here.” 

Have you ever had a few “quiet moments” when you’ve asked the great unknown, “what the hell am I doing here?”  “Who am I?”  “How’d I get here?  What really happens when I die?”  

I don’t remember asking those thoughts, but after that phone call I knew it was time to figure out how in the world I was creating my experiences.  I picked up a book,  The Magic Power of Self-Image Psychology” by Dr. Maxwell Maltz.   He was a famous plastic surgeon who realized that people he fixed still had a mental picture of their injuries.    He started working on helping people change the picture they had of themselves – thus the “self-image” had to be healed as well as their wounds.

My self-image needed major surgery back in those days – no minor surgery – major surgery.

That’s what started my “search.”  I was guided to move to Dallas, TX, where two years later I found a spiritual program called the Inner Peace Movement.  I was working on a film project.  The editor was enthusiastic three days in a row.  I wasn’t sure if he was “on ” anything, but whatever it was, I wanted to try it out.  He asked if I had ever heard of the Inner Peace Movement.  I almost fell out of the chair laughing…”is there really such a thing?”

“Sure,” he said, “it’s groups of people who meet in people’s home on a weekly basis…”

“No, ” I interrupted, “is there such a thing as Inner Peace?”  That’s where my head was at the time.  Remember, this is before Wayne Dyer, before Hay House, before mediation or affirmations.  This is pioneer stuff.

And he told me two things that forever changed my life.   Warning!  Life Changing Info Ahead!  Click now or forever be changed!

A.  I am a soul with a body, not a body with a soul.  That was the first thing I had heard in my life that really made sense!

B.  I have a team of angels that have been working with me before I was born.   And I could establish a two-way communication with them.   (Whoa!)

So that’s what I did the next day – I went to Judith Phelan’s home and spent a little more than an hour with her.  She told me more about myself in that one hour than anyone ever had.  I told her she was a gifted psychic.  She told me – “Everyone is.”

She got all the information about me from my team.  She then introduced me to a technique that without question established with 100% certainty that I did have a team of angels, master souls, spiritual guidance – whatever name you want to use doesn’t matter.  I have them and so do you!  Ever get goose bumps?  Chills?  That’s your angels.

Your energy works at a certain speed and frequency.  Their energy is more refined…and a lot faster.  They don’t have to carry around a lot of emotional baggage.  In fact, if you think about it, there are days when your energy is light, bright and moving quickly and other days when your energy is a little sluggish 0r “heavy.” 

Well, this blog is about learning more about you!  Because, let’s face it.  You are the most important person on the planet to you!  Who breathes for you?  Who eats when you’re hungry?  You may think other people are more important, but hey, it’s just you and me now…you can be honest.  You are IT!   You were alive before you were born and you’ll be alive after you leave.  You have never died and you will never die.  You check into that body, enter the world on your “birth” day and check out when you pass on.  But you don’t  die!  No one does.

Now that brings up a very important point….where do you go when you die?  That’s the next topic!  Just remember, errors only need to be corrected.  And true forgiveness is seeing the error was never made in the first place.  I don’ t know who will find this blog, but you’re welcome here.  There are two things you can share with the world…your opinion and your experiences….that’s it!   Enjoy the journey!  A lifetime on planet earth is like the blinking of an eye in the time span of eternity.  I learned that from Francisco Coll, founder the the Inner Peace Movement and Americana Learship College.  More on all that next time!